"I have understood power and control and entitlement and sexism and violence against women, and how those things are interconnected in a broad sense. I have understood on a systemic and institutionalized level how all of these things are damaging to women individually and to women on the whole. I understood how these patterns of behavior exist, and how they hurt men, and how they hurt women. But I didn't 'get' how it hurt me. In spite of all the thinking and writing and talking I have done, it still felt like my story had to be different."