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21 March 2012 @ 08:12 am
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Having more than a couple introverted friends has lead me to analyze (over-analyze?) my own reactions.

A lot of days, it feels like I have this limited supply of small talk I can have with acquaintances, and once that runs out, I don't always know what to do with myself. One of my co-workers seems to, I don't know, drain my reserves of small talk faster? I have no reason to dislike him, and I really don't. But he is just one of those people where I don't know what to say, past a couple generalities, and soon after that, bam, this weird artificial wall. Very off-putting. I've tried asking him about other things, getting to know him better, find something else in common. But it's just this weird vibe.

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Lizammitnox on March 21st, 2012 02:28 pm (UTC)
He's probably introverted, too. Extroverts are easy to get to talk about themselves and carry both parts of the conversation. I love it. They try to get me to talk about me (because that's what they like to do), and I just switch it around on them so I can nod and smile.
224215152: Quirky224215152 on March 21st, 2012 03:55 pm (UTC)
Interesting. Tell me more!
maiamaroonmd on March 21st, 2012 05:01 pm (UTC)
LOL!
maiamaroonmd on March 21st, 2012 05:12 pm (UTC)
Hey! I resemble that remark. (Also, Paul is no introvert.) Introverts clearly hate us because they won't talk to us- even when we ask them about something they must know about, like themselves. ;)
PMMJ: Ayatollahcheetahmaster on March 21st, 2012 06:55 pm (UTC)
(Also, Paul is no introvert.)

Entirely true. As noted, I know more than a few, so I feel a certain empathy. And it was what came to mind when I was trying to describe the feeling.
rinmcgroyne on March 21st, 2012 08:08 pm (UTC)
Either sarcasm isn't indicated and I'm an idiot (well, I'm an idiot, anyway, but regardless...), or we have a different experience here.

Why do you think Paul is an extrovert? I've never gotten that impression... :/
PMMJ: Possecheetahmaster on March 21st, 2012 08:24 pm (UTC)
Well, looking at the explanation of the scale between the two, I definitely like having lots of friends and doing many social activities. And I'm assertive-ish? I think 'enthusiastic' counts, and definitely talkative.
rinmcgroyne on March 21st, 2012 08:29 pm (UTC)
Ah, I think we're working on two different definitions of said scale. My most recent research gives the summary that extroverts gain energy from social interaction, and introverts expend energy. I'd always pegged you as introverted due to your tendency to socialize over video games and nap during parties. There are many introverts who like lots of friends and are assertive, it just costs them energy to maintain that network.
PMMJ: Possecheetahmaster on March 21st, 2012 08:36 pm (UTC)
(it's funny because I said 'assertive'ish.')
Interesting. I will have to look up this 'conservation of energy' theory on the scale. But yeah, I can at least safely say I'm not on either extreme.

(Napping during parties is totally just exhaustion from lack of sleep, though. I'd always rather be up and having fun.)
rinmcgroyne on March 21st, 2012 09:00 pm (UTC)
Re: (it's funny because I said 'assertive'ish.')
"The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World"
maiamaroonmd on March 21st, 2012 10:30 pm (UTC)
This was pretty much going to be my reply. He gets charged from social interaction. When he doesn't have his work schedule to deal with, he's positively bouncy after parties and clubbing. On earlier nights, when he's gaming, he is all giddy and talkative when he comes home. lol
Leesa Logic: Jupiterleesalogic on March 22nd, 2012 12:08 am (UTC)
Extroverts are vampires, introverts are our food.

Ron made a comment once that, as an extrovert, I'm like solar energy: I never run out of power.

I love the sun, so I'll keep this assessment.

Also, I'm a vampire. That's why you are so tired after interacting with me. Social anemia.
Leesa Logicleesalogic on March 22nd, 2012 12:06 am (UTC)
I totally resemble this assessment! ::Shakes fist at Dr. Liz::

However, while I do love to share my experiences, I also love learning about other people.

But yes, I fall prey to your trick every. single. time.
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PMMJ: Possecheetahmaster on March 21st, 2012 06:56 pm (UTC)
Granted, yes. But this not-clicking is... different.
224215152: I Heart224215152 on March 21st, 2012 03:54 pm (UTC)
Talking to people with whom you have nothing in common is one of my least favorite things. All you enjoy is football and American Idol? My, what nice weather we're having. /runs screaming